With more and more couples around the world joining swingers clubs, it has become a challenge to understand people and their demands. When we organize swingers parties, we try to take into account every like and dislike our members have. However, this too can become worrisome for some members that love their privacy. Most of the times, we get asked by married males on how they can introduce their wife into the swinging and swapping lifestyle. This is a totally valid question, after-all, we all love to have sex and this lifestyle is the perfect one for swingers around the world.
When you try to introduce your wife to swapping, you first need to understand if she is ready for this lifestyle or not. The best way to do this is by simply talking to her. Communication plays a vital role in this lifestyle and it is your duty to make her understand what your intentions are.
Firstly, find out if your wife is scare of other men. If she is, you need to make her comfortable around other men in your company. You need to make her understand that you like it when she flirts with other men. Once she understands this, she will be more open to meeting other men and women.
Once you have established a boundary with your wife, tell her that you like it when you spend time with other men and women. Go out for more parties, get social and talk to more people. Try to talk to sexy men and women that are also married. You can use Browse Members at the SwingersHub to meet other married couples that are into this lifestyle as well.
Ater you meet a couple, introduce your wife to them as just friends. Tell your wife if she is ok with a soft swap to begin the night. Once she agrees, you should take care of her since she could be scared as this would be the first time she is willing to let herself lose with another man. Assure your wife that you will take care of her. Ask her if you too can have fun with another woman. Always ask for permission. This is an optional lifestyle and getting consent from all partners is absolutely important.
If your wife is disgusted by the idea of full swap or soft swap, then you need to show her clips, articles and materials that show the benefit of swapping for long term marriages.
Never go for full swaps inititaly. Always meet other couples at restarurants, bars etc. Give your wife a little liquid courage to help kickstart conversations. Do not be shy to indulge in naughty conversations. Speak to your wife and other couples openly about sex. Remove the taboo that comes with swinging. Once you are able to do this, your wife will trust that you know what you are doing.
The goal to getting your wife convinced to swap and join a swingers club comes only when there is social proof or a friend that can vouch for it. Get your other couples or meet other swinging couples who are into husband and wife swapping to speak to your wife too. Find couples you and your wife can connect with and you are good to go.
